Frequently Asked Questions

- What does Tantra bring?

Practice, technique or discipline? Tantra is above all a state of being. It allows the energy of Life to recirculate in us but also in our relationship to others and to the world. Open your eyes to the beauty of love, restore the sacred in every moment - even in daily acts -, live your life experience with more gentleness, lightness and awareness, these are the many facets that brings tantra to those who wish to discover it.

Find out more on Tantra here.

- Who are these Gay Tantra animations for?

The activities offered by Men’s Hearts are dedicated to gays and bisexuals wishing to discover a different type of romantic and sexual relationships. Relationships as we experience them in our modern societies, and particularly in the gay world, are for many of us less than fulfilling, if not disappointing. These courses invite to the discovery of more authentic relationships nourishing the heart and the soul.

However, Cœurs hommes does not want to be community-based in any way and also welcomes heterosexual men and transgender men whose objectives are varied (questioning about their choice of sexual object, desire to go beyond the question of sex and gender in their path. trantric, deploy a different vision of homosexuality, different understanding of their relationship to the body and their sexuality, etc.).

Ultimately, any adult man, open-minded and willing to live a Men's Hearts experience is welcome and taken into account in his desire and his individuality.

- What is the specificity of Gay Tantra?

As indicated in the "What is Tantra ?" page of this website, Tantra takes into account the human being in its entirety, in particular in its feminine and masculine aspects. As gays and bisexuals carry these two polarities within them more consciously, Tantra seems particularly intended for them. However, traditional and contemporary writings and animations are not addressed to these men who love other men.

The activities offered by Men's hearts aim to support any gay man wishing to meet the spirit of Tantra by taking into account his amorous and sexual lifestyle.

Straight or Mixed Tantra is focused, among other things, on a better understanding between men and women. Gay Tantra is based on relationship issues specific to gays:

- sometimes too genitalized and compulsive sexuality

- the absence of a real link within a sexual act

- a need for tenderness that sometimes seems irreconcilable to a freer and more open sexuality

Gay Tantra is an invitation to go from the sex to the heart.

Speaking times are specially dedicated to themes that specifically affect gays and their relationship to sexuality (the discovery of one's homosexuality, coming out, so-called gay sexual practices, etc.). The goal being always the same: to live more fully, more freely and more consciously his individuality.

Without condemning or blaming any practice whatsoever, it is in this typicality and this objective that the courses offered by Men’s Hearts fall into place.

Because every man, whatever his sexuality, must have the possibility of taking this incredible path that is that of Tantra.

- I have never practiced any Tantra nor personal development or meditation, can I still join in?

Of course! The main thing is your desire to experience your relationship with others, with the world and with yourself in a different way. The exercises offered are always simple and easy to access. The Hearts of Men team is there at all times to accompany you wherever you are on the path to yourself. So that no one is left out, each activity adapts to the group present in order to limit any disharmony. Tantra is not a perfomance and asks you to be as you are with your course, your shadows and your lights.

- What about sexuality in these animations?

Although Tantra takes into account the entire human being and deals in part with sexuality, none of the exercises and massages offered lead to sexual intercourse. Don't get me wrong, the courses offered by Cœurs hommes are not disguised orgies but a wonderful way to consider relationships and sexuality in a fulfilling and sacred way. Tantra invites us to have another look at sensuality, relationships but also to question, with lightness, the issues of sexuality. By registering, all participants of the Men's Hearts events undertake to respect the proposed framework and the animation team take care of it with kindness. You will find the framework proposed for each animation here.

- Is everything allowed in Men’s Hearts’ Retreats? 

During a Tantra workshop, the frame is essential. Only when one feels safe,  one can abandon oneself with confidence and let the energy work. This framework, especially at the se*ual level, also allows everyone not to respond to their desire so that it becomes something much greater. At Men’s Hearts, we have established a clear framework: no se*ual relationship, respect for oneself and others, confidentiality, among others. Every participant is committed to respect this framework during our Retreats,  and so are the members of our team. Moreover, our staff also undertakes to respect this framework and to be present for everyone throughout the Retreat and afterwards if necessary. You can find out more about our framework and the functioning of our Retreats here.

Only when limits are clear, freedom can be found. 

- During these activities, can I choose the people with whom I do the suggested exercises, in particular massages?

During the activities, the various exercises offered are done in groups, alone or in pairs. In the vast majority of cases, the choice is yours to choose your partner for a two-person exercise. Your limits will always be heard and respected. The Cœurs d "hommes team is there to facilitate the creation of pairs and support you in your choices. But you can also let yourself be chosen by another man. This can thus allow you to lead you where you do not go. Don't wait there ;-)

- Is it only all about sexuality during the Men's Hearts animations?

Tantra being very often reduced to massages and sexuality, it seems relevant to me to discover its richness and its diversity which go well beyond a simple massage of the sex. This is why Men's Hearts offers a wide variety of exercises in the animations so that everyone can find their way around (moment of dance, sacred rituals, individual and collective mediations, traditional Tantra and neo Tantra exercises, massages ...).

- Am I not too young or too old to join a Tantric session?

The important thing in such an experience is not your age but your commitment, your desire to live a unique and different experience between men. The ages of participants in the Hearts of Men events vary. He ranges from 25 to 75 years old. The goal is to allow everyone to share their experience without restriction or categorization.

- I would like to take part in a Retreat,  but I am afraid of having an erection during practice. 

It is a widespread fear among all men. Tantra aims at working on sexuality. Hence, such a reaction can happen during a massage, a deep exercise or a stripping moment. First of all, let me remind you that there is nothing more natural. This proves that you are alive! We are between men and we have all been, one day or another, faced with this fear. Don’t worry! You will in no way be judged, mocked or blamed for this. In the event of an erection, it will be welcomed for what it is, that is to say a proof of your vitality, a mechanical reaction or a sign of pleasure. 

- Is coming to a workshop on my own a disadvantage?

This is the case for a high number of our participants. It is precisely the opportunity to meet and share with other men in all authenticity. During the courses, some participants meet and then forge very strong friendships which extend well beyond these moments. Others even find a life partner there. Everything is in place so that everyone is recognized in their singularity with fairness, compassion and warmth. The other participants are not there to judge you but to live this unique experience with you.

Perhaps you can come by carpooling with another participant to create a link around the course and thus overcome your fears? To do this, do not hesitate to request it when you register here.

-  We are a couple, can we participate in such events and what benefits can they bring to our relationship?

For a couple, participating in a Tantra workshop or course is a wonderful way to strengthen the existing bond. It helps nurture this unique relationship and discover ways to nurture the common desire to be together. Listening to your partner better, being more present to him, respecting his limits and his individuality are treasures that tantra offers. Each couple having its own functioning, each is free to go and meet or not meet other participants during an exercise involving or a massage. Together, you should feel free to live the experiences offered during these times as you see fit. Break times spread over the days will allow you to take stock between you and redefine, if you wish, the rules of your participation as the course progresses.

Finally, know that having couples within a Tantra experience is always extremely inspiring for the other participants.

- I am in a relationship but I want to come alone, is it a good idea?

In reality, this question is yours alone. Being clear with one's desire and goals is essential during a tantra course. If you think that such an approach can allow you to take stock of your relationship or your sexuality or that it can bring them more harmony, you are free to come alone. As indicated in the page "Operation and framework of the courses", confidentiality between the participants is essential and your approach will not be judged in any way. You must feel free and fulfilled to participate in such an internship alone. If not, it's up to you to explore your motivations.

- Are the places where retreats are hosted suitable for the gay community, moreover, for this type of activity?

The locations of Men’s Hearts’ events are selected with great care. The open-mindedness of the hosts, their willingness to receive participants with respect, peace and discretion are guaranteed.

The places are also chosen for the quality of their services (natural setting and neat environment, food adapted to this type of entertainment) as well as for their facilities (common rooms with single beds, single rooms and rooms for couples, bathroom tantra, garden for outdoor exercises, places of relaxation) in order to offer participants a comfortable and rejuvenating environment far from the tumult of a sometimes stressful daily life.

Finally, the places chosen have the specificity of regularly hosting Tantra events so that any misunderstanding is excluded.

For further information on the different locations that welcome us:

- South of France, click here

- near Paris, click here

- Western France, click here

- in Drôme County (Lyon region, South-East of France), click here

- in Spain, click here

- I saw on social networks photos taken during the Retreats, what is the purpose of these photos? 

The photo album has several goals: allow one to have a better acceptance of oneself and one's identity, to relive the experience once alone at home, to generate sometimes very powerful insights. This album is confidential and is only shared between participants. The photos you see on social networks are only part of it and are published with the clear agreement of the participants. Any refusal is respected. As for the purposes of the broadcasts, there are many: to get away from the sulfurous and erroneous imagery that the vulgate has of Tantra in order to reveal all its beauty and the fraternity it generates, to reassure men who think that it is necessary to be model-looking to join us, to allow participants to progress, at their own pace, on the path to self-acceptance, to try to get an idea of what is happening in the animations without clearly revealing the content, to erase the idea that Tantra is a shameful practice, etc. Tantra is a beautiful and wholesome practice, there is no reason to hide it.

- What is it that we are doing exactly during Men’s Hearts’ Gay Tantra Retreats?

It is part of the Tantric tradition not to reveal to the outer world the content of a Tantra Retreat. Why? 

Quite simply because words are not enough to describe such collective experiences. Hence, talking about Tantric experiences out of the Tantric context would make no sense to anyone. 

Also because Tantric experiences take place within a defined framework, which initiates specific states of mind and consciousness. 

Another reason not to share the content of a Tantra Retreat is explained by the will not to not provide your ego with the opportunity to anticipate the experience. And thus not to fight against the fulfillment that this practice offers. 

However, I invite you to read the many testimonials shared by Men’s Hearts’ participants. They will give you a pretty good idea of what can be experienced during our Gay Tantra Retreats. 

Because those who talk about it best are those who have lived the experience.

- Despite all the information available on the website, I do not know if such animations would suit me, what to think?

No one can decide for you whether to take part to our animations. Let it happen when you will feel like doing so, maybe this is not the right time for you.

I also invite you to subscribe to the newsletter in order to receive information on tantra, perhaps this will allow you to see more clearly.

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